According to Alex Asuogha, a BBNaija star, many use their childhood trauma as a justification for their behavior.
She was responding to a therapist’s assertion that self-isolation at times of overload may indicate that a person had to work through a lot of issues by themselves as a youngster.
Alex responded by asking people to quit blaming their parents and those around them for their adult behavior on her Instagram stories. She made the case that some people had wonderful childhoods but experienced events as adults that had an impact on them.
She made the point that, despite the existence of childhood trauma, adults ought to quit using it as an excuse for their negative attitudes or inadequate life adaption abilities.
Ashabi Simple, a singer, has turned to social media to express her love for her fourth child, singer Portable.
A heartfelt Valentine’s Day love note was sent by her on her Instagram story.
Following the singer’s public admission that she is not his wife but rather his baby mother and side chick, Ashabi made this statement.
She penned:
“I refuse to depart. I’m not going to give up. and will show up whenever you require me. You may not believe it. You can attempt to dissuade me by saying that I’ll simply walk away, but that will never happen. Regardless of the cause for departure.
I will always be here for you because I adore you.
She continued, saying:
I’d rather schedule a time to talk to you than over
I would rather schedule time with you than with someone else. I hope you have a happy Valentine’s Day.
“Some people have never received valentine packages” and similar posts like this are probably the first thing you’d come across as you log in to any social media platform on the 14th of February every year.
Some playfully refer to this day as a perfect one to apply pressure and ‘press the necks’ of single people. But, has there ever been a day when single people are not subjected to pressure from couples? Those people have always restricted our airflow! God abeg!
To those of us single, it’s just another day to be reminded of our inexistent love life and to be pressured further when those in relationships upload lovely, and cute pictures and video evidence of them exchanging Valentine’s packages or gifts, flowers, and so on.
The work automatically assigned to the singles on this day is to display the ‘raise am, raise am’ act. Some do this by liking the couples’ posts, exclaiming, and leaving comments like ‘he-he’ ‘ awwn’ ‘God abeg’ and ‘God when’ while some will rather hiss, squeeze their faces, and scrunch their nose as they scroll past the posts with a speed of light.
People’s opinions about Valentine’s Day vary.
Some view this day as ‘overhyped’, some deem it important and look forward to it, every year while some think it is just like every other day. What then is the big deal about Valentine’s Day?
For the lucky few, it’s a day of happiness and to further bond with one another, for others it’s a day that opens up old wounds.
Now, here comes the question, Is Valentine’s Day really what it should be nowadays?
What’s Valentine’s Day all about?
Valentine’s Day is all about love.
St. Valentine, patron of love.
Valentine’s Day was presented in honor and remembrance of St. Valentine, a Roman priest. It is said that this man displayed love in its greatest form for the church through dedication and laying down His life. Since then, Valentine’s Day has been celebrated as a day of “love”. A day celebrated between loved ones with a theme colour of white and red that symbolizes this special day.
Over time, Valentine’s Day evolved from the celebration of St. Valentine’s sacrificial love to a day for individuals, friends, and families to rekindle and keep the fire of their undying love for each other burning bright, to ensure their bond wax stronger, and to appreciate one another through admirable gestures, such as exchange of beautiful words, and substantial gifts that further preach love to their loved ones.
But, spoiler alert!!!
Valentine’s Day has lost its actual substance and uniqueness. Nowadays, the exchange of material things is used to measure the extent of love between couples. High expectations as well as competition for who got the most expensive gifts are now the order of the day during Valentine’s Day. Also, Comparisons of what others did for their partners to what their partners did for them now matter over the real love that should be celebrated. Most people believe that the only genuine manner their partners can sincerely establish their love for them is through expensive gifts which should not be so.
Valentine’s Day has been reduced to one single day that is all about overhyped excitement of partners who forget being good or showing love to one another for the rest of the year. The majority have misplaced perceptions about Valentine’s Day and they celebrate it just to follow the bandwagon.
Series of events on Valentine’s Day
We witness diverse happenings on Valentine’s Day, some lovely and prayer point worthy while some are filled with sad experiences. The lucky few get appreciated, and some get served premium breakfast as ‘e dey hot’.
We see instances of a cheating partner getting exposed as Valentine gifts and the bearers of the gifts collide with one another in the house of a girlfriend or vice versa. Both men and women are dumbfounded as they witness or see videos of their supposed partners presenting gifts to another person.
For people like this, Valentine’s Day will forever be a sour day until someone somewhere, the right man or woman appears to change their view about it.
Then, there are the ones who experience kindness from real partners who immensely understand and incorporate intentionality on a normal day aside the Valentine’s Day. To them, Valentine’s Day is just a plus one day to wax stronger and a reminder that their love can’t be shaken.
I know at this point, you’re wondering how to reset the true purpose of Valentine’s Day.
Here are some updates;
• As a person with an active relationship, avoid exerting pressure on your partners to get you expensive gifts as regards Valentine’s Day, as this is somehow unkind and stressful. Do away with high expectations and let your main focus be on growing to be better in your relationship.
• If your partner is not buoyant enough to get you any gift whatsoever, spend quality time with them, and bond over meaningful things on this day, it might be a movie night together in your room, or a game night. Indulge in any other interest you have observed that sparks joy in your partner.
• If you have once been hurt on Valentine’s Day, it’s understandable if your view about it changed completely after that experience but trust me, you’re deserving of love in its purest form. Be open-minded and give love another try.
...life let me embrace my ‘single to stupor’ life
• To those of us single, let us keep exclaiming ‘God when’ to couples pictures!
• I’d advise us to not be a troll or leave hateful comments under couples’ posts or take memes or posts pointing at our dilemma to heart. Have it in mind that one of these days “God go run am” And if all those get to you, you better go find a partner! Or humor yourself and order a Valentine’s package for yourself, take pictures, and caption it “Valentine gifts from my man/woman” so you too won’t ‘carry last’
In all, we should be willing to rewire our ethos on the perception of Valentine’s Day. It’s all about love and love is all about being sacrifial, pure, selfless, and not materialistic as material things are just a plus. Therefore, all-round love should be the order of the day.
“Some people have never received valentine packages” and similar posts are probably the first thing you’d come across as you log in to any social media platform on the 14th of February every year. Some playfully refer to it as a day to apply pressure and ‘press the necks’ of single people. But, has there ever been a day single people have not been subjected to pressure from couples? Those people have always been restricting our air flows! God abeg!
To those of us single, it’s just another day to be reminded of our inexistent love life and to be further pressured while those in relationships seem to pressure us with uploads of pictures and video evidence of them exchanging Valentine’s packages or gifts, flowers, and so on. The work automatically assigned to the singles on this day is to display the ‘raise am, raise am’ act. Some do this by liking the couples’ posts, exclaiming, and leaving comments like ‘he-he’ ‘ awwn’ ‘God abeg’ and ‘God when’ while some will rather hiss, squeeze their faces, and scrunch their nose as they scroll past the posts with a speed of light.
People’s opinions about Valentine’s Day vary. Some view this day as ‘overhyped’, some deem it important and look forward to it every year while some think it is just like every other day. What then is the big deal about Valentine`s Day? For the lucky few, it’s a day of happiness and to further bond with one another, for others it’s a day that opens up old wounds.
Now, here comes the question, Is Valentine’s Day really what it should be nowadays?
What’s Valentine’s Day about?
Valentine’s Day is all about love.
St. Valentine. Patron of love.
Valentine’s Day was presented in honor and remembrance of St. Valentine, a Roman priest. It is said that this man displayed love in its greatest form for the church through dedication and laying down His life. Since then, Valentine`s has been celebrated as a day of “love”. A day celebrated between loved ones with a theme colour of white and red that symbolizes this special day.
Gradually, Valentine’s Day evolved from the celebration of St. Valentine’s sacrificial love to a day for individuals, friends, and families to rekindle and keep the fire of their undying love burning bright, to ensure their bond wax stronger, and to appreciate one another through admirable gestures, such as exchange of beautiful words, and substantial gifts that further preach love to their loved ones. But, spoiler alert!!!
Valentine’s Day has lost its actual substance and uniqueness. The exchange of material things is used to measure the extent of love between couples nowadays. High expectations competition for who got the most expensive gifts is now the order of the day during Valentine’s Day. Comparison of what others did to what their partners did for them now matters over the actual real love that should be celebrated because many are now wired to believe the only genuine way their partners can sincerely establish their love for them is through expensive gifts which should not be so.
Valentine’s Day has been reduced to one single day that is all about overhyped excitement of partners who forget being good or showing love to one another for the rest of the year. The majority have misplaced perceptions about Valentine’s Day and celebrate it just to follow the bandwagon. Series of events on Valentine’s Day.
We witness diverse happenings on Valentine’s Day, some lovely and prayer point worthy while some are filled with sad experiences. The lucky few get appreciated, and some get served premium breakfast as ‘e dey hot’.
We see instances of a cheating partner getting exposed as Valentine packages and their bearers collide with one another in the house of a girlfriend or vice versa. Both men and women are dumbfounded as they witness or see videos of their supposed partners presenting gifts to another person. For people like this, Valentine’s Day will forever be a sour day until someone somewhere, the right man or woman appears to change their view about it.
Then, there are the ones who experience kindness from real partners who immensely understand and incorporate intentionality on a normal day aside the Valentine’s Day. To them, Valentine’s Day is just a plus one day to wax stronger and a reminder that their love can’t be shaken. I know at this point, you’re wondering how to reset the true purpose of Valentine’s Day.
Here are some updates;
• As a person with an active relationship, avoid exerting pressure on your partners to get you expensive gifts as regards Valentine’s Day, as this is somehow unkind and stressful. Do away with High expectations and let your main focus be on growing to be better in your relationship. If your partner is not buoyant enough to get you any gift whatsoever, spend quality time with them, bond over meaningful things on this day might be a movie night in your room, or a game night. Indulge in any other interest you have observed, which sparks joy in your partner.
• If you have once been hurt on Valentine’s Day, it’s understandable if your view about it changed completely after that experience but trust me, you’re deserving of love in its purest form. Be open-minded and give love another try.
…like let me embrace my ‘single to stupor’ life.
• To those of us single, let us keep exclaiming ‘God when’ to couples pictures! I’d advise us to not be a troll under couple’s posts or take memes or posts pointing at our dilemma to heart. Have it in mind that one of these days “God go run am” And if all those get to you, you better go find a partner! Or humor yourself and order a Valentine’s package for yourself, take pictures, and caption it “Valentine gifts from my man/woman” so you too won’t ‘carry last’
In all, we should be willing to rewire our ethos on the perception of Valentine’s Day. It’s all about love and love is all about being sacrifial, pure, selfless, and not materialistic as material things are just a plus. Therefore, all-round love should be the order of the day.
Yetunde Kuti has revealed how she met her husband, Seun Kuti.
She spoke in a recent episode of Your View.
Yetunde revealed that she had known him for a very long time. She said they never spoke because she felt he was a lot older than her.
Yetunde said she later became his backup dancer, adding that when he asked her out, she “played hard to get” because she was seeing someone else.
She said there was a time she started developing feelings for him but backed off after she realised he was also in a relationship at the time.
“I was friends with his cousin before we met. I have actually known Seun for a very long time but we never used to talk because he was older than me obviously and he had his own older life and I was growing up,” she said.
“I eventually met him again through his cousin and then I started working with them as a dancer because I loved to dance. His cousin was one of his dancers.
“In the beginning, it was him scoping because it was a lot for me. The guy was just too amazing so I felt like he was a lot for me. It is just that he had a lot going on for him and he even had a girlfriend.
“It is just a five-year difference but at this time, we weren’t talking. I used to see him, I would go to places he usually visits too. But we never used to talk. He even had a girlfriend that was older than me. But after a year we got together.
“I played hard to get, I tried. At that point, I think that time I was seeing someone he knew so it was quite a bit awkward. It was not just him hitting on me, he had other friends that were hitting on me.
“At this time he had a girlfriend, what was I going to do with someone who had a girlfriend? Like where am I starting from? And his girlfriend already started giving me the face like who is this? One time she literally asked his cousin like who is this girl? So obviously I had to like back off then but for a year.”
The lovebirds dated for over a decade. They welcomed a baby girl — named Adara Kuti — in 2013 and would later tie the knot in October 2020.
The musician Kanye West, an American, has promised to keep showing off his wife Bianca Censori on social media.
He used his Instagram profile to give a justification for his choice.
Reacting to criticism that he shows off his wife too much on social media, West said that he writes music because his wife makes him happy.
“Ima post my wife as much as I want bro,” Kanye West stated in a video message posted to Instagram. I’m glad about it. There are many that wish for your happiness. They want you to make them happy, therefore I chose to do the opposite and am content with myself.
Remember that following his union with reality star Kim Kardashian, Kanye West wed Bianca Censori?
The media personality and Nollywood actor Chinedu Ani Emmanuel, also known as Nedu, has disclosed his current romantic status.
The star has finally made his second marriage official.
In the most recent Offair Show broadcast, he made this revelation.
He did not, however, disclose the identify of his new spouse or the date of their marriage.
“I have a spouse. My subsequent union. It’s quite evident from everywhere on the internet that my first marriage ended.
“I didn’t cheat for the reason my previous marriage ended. As it concerns my personal life, I won’t discuss why it ended. I will not discuss it,” Nedu declared.
Remember that in 2018, the actor filed for divorce from his first wife, Uzoamaka, on the grounds that she had fabricated her fatherhood.
In response to an entitled woman criticizing him for not offering assistance, Paul Okoye, also known as Rudeboy, one of the Psquare brothers, replied.
The musician acknowledged that he had previously assisted the woman in a social media post.
However, the woman insulted him on DM as soon as he chose to take a break.
He allegedly paid for her daughter’s blood transfusion in the past, and now she is criticizing him for not providing for her financially.
The woman he once assisted is now mocking him, Paul said, adding to the growing state of desperation in the nation.
She, he said, reminded him that one day he would pass away and leave all of his wealth behind.
He broke down in tears over her texts and announced that he was going to turn up the volume on his evil.
“The state of affairs in the nation is deteriorating; even someone I’ve never met but who is continuously receiving assistance from, oh! I was insulted today, labeled a nasty person, and told that I would die and leave all of my money behind. made me aware that I was a poor man.
“I hurt, Sha. I must amp up the intensity of my evil,” he wrote.