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I’m Single And Not Searching, I Have Many Boys Who Service Me – Dancer, Korra Obidi Says

Korra Obidi, the controversial Nigerian dancer, has revealed that she is not searching for a new partner at the moment, despite her divorce from her ex-husband, Justin Dean.

She said she is more focused on making money.

Appearing on a recent episode of the ‘Heroe’s Diary’ podcast, the mother of two explained that she isn’t bothered about remarrying, emphasising that she has “many boys” who satisfy her s*xual urges.

She said, “Serious Nigerian woman when I marry the man becomes my life. So now I’m trying to put that energy into making money so I don’t end up homeless like I was. I know that nobody is coming to save me in a in a knight and shining armour so I need to focus on the money.” [sic].

Obidi also frowned at the actions of those who are pinning her to her failed marriage, noting that it has been over two years since her divorce.

“I want to make a public service announcement. I’m not the only person that got married in Nigeria. In fact, my marriage was not even public. All you people saw was one post on Instagram: ‘Korra is taken.’ You people are now carrying the marriage to tie my legs.

“It has been two years [since my divorce], please leave me alone. I am single as a dollar bill. And I am not searching. I have many boys that service me.”

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Why I Can’t Go N*ked For Fame — Nigerian Model, Sophia Etomi Speaks

Sophia Etomi, a fast emerging model affectionately known as Etomisophia, has firmly stated that she will not resort to nudity, regardless of the financial incentives, to gain fame or fortune.

It is a world where modesty is now seen as old fashioned. To “blow,” one may have to bare it all, including revealing sensitive parts of the body in motion and still pictures to get noticed.

For a truth, bad stuff sells in this part faster than ice in the desert. In the last few years, young Nigerians n a bid to make it quicker than their talents would enable them, did some terrible things, including “S*x on the tape,” involving a renowned singer famed for her stage performance.

However, Sophia Etomi believes there is more to life than nudity.

When asked in an interview if she could go n*ked to model an outfit, Sophia Etomi said: “I believe in modesty. When I’m too exposed, I always tend to take two steps back.  Fashion modeling goes way beyond exposing myself to get recognized.”

Despite this personal stand of hers, Sophia Etomi, who is seen as a young boss in the making however added that there are people who would not see anything wrong in exposing themselves to catch cruise.’

“People are different.Some people seem very confident with showing a lot of skin. Sometimes I get uncomfortable with it,” she stressed.

Etomisophia added that she is not under any form of pressure to be who she is not.

“I am not pressured at all; instead,  I am my own motivation. I try to be better,do my own thing at my own pace so that I can take things seriously and put in the right amount of effort and time required for me to get satisfaction from what I put my effort in.

“Although, there are certain necessities that come to me like pressure but it’s something that I handle without too much fuss,” Sophia Etomi told our correspondent.

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Nigerian Actresses, Liz Anjorin And Iyabo Ojo Reconcile

Popular Nigerian actresses, Iyabo Ojo and Lizzy Anjorin have settled their rift.

Their social media feud had escalated to the point where Ojo filed a defamatory lawsuit against Lizzy, seeking N500 million in damages.

Lizzy’s absence at the first court hearing in February 2024 led to court notices being pasted at her house.

In a recent development, the judge presiding over the case took on the role of mediator and successfully reconciled the two actresses.

Confirming the reconciliation to the press, Iyabo mentioned that the judge provided motherly advice, urging both women to stop fighting and cursing each other on social media and to embrace peace instead.

A video circulating online shows Iyabo and Lizzy smiling as they left the court together.

Lizzy’s husband approached Iyabo and gave her a peaceful hug, symbolising the newfound harmony.

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WHO MADE DAVID MAD? (EPISODE 3)

Alfreda had taken a seat at the edge of the bed while still laughing hysterically, she felt like punching David in the guts, maybe watching him double over and groan in pain would have eased the pain she felt at that moment. She touched her chest, moving her hand up and down her chest in a bid to calm herself. David stood there looking so confused and lost. The realization that she had been coupling with a kid who could not make sane decisions for himself and was easily pushed about like a wheelbarrow hit her like a wave. He has never made good decisions for them, she has always been the one looking out for them. How couldn’t she have known all this while? Is love truly, blind?
He just stood there scratching his brows, saying nothing.


“David? What game brought this ruin upon you? What silly game did you squander all our money on?.”

She was looking directly into his eyes and was at the brim of bursting into tears. Several minutes passed and David still had not said anything in response to the question. Her eyes widened suddenly, and she stood up abruptly and said,

“Don’t Tell me you gambled with all that money?” She got no response.

“Answer me David before I pluck your eyes out!” She cried.

His shoulders dropped, he sighed and said, “Something like that. It’s not really gambling, it’s just a sophisticated game of the rich. That is the name for it”


“Sophisticated game of the rich? Interesting. Tell me about it, Dav.”


“See Al, I thought I would be able to do it once, get a whole lot of money off it, and never indulge again according to how the leader of the group described it to me, it was supposed to be easy. I never knew it would turn out this way.”


“It’s no use crying over spilled milk Dav, and I have been patient enough with you at the moment, what the hell was the game you played?!”


“I’m not supposed to breathe a word of this to anyone who is not a member, for all I know there might be a monitoring bug on me, in my phone, or even in this house but since I am totally ruined, I have to tell you. It is called ‘the game of lords.’ It’s a large network of people and all the members are rich, I mean stinkingly rich but there are different categories of the rich there…those still looking for more money, those looking for pleasure, and the ones who make money off the other two. Ermm… we made bets on…on…peo…people’s life.”

He went silent, she saw his worried look and his eyes frantically searched her face for any reaction. What should she have done? Cry? Scream? All she felt like doing at that moment was laugh, laugh at the misfortune David had tabled before her and how unbelievable the seems. Maybe she’s been jilted by David. Maybe he was a jigolo who had planned to ruin her alongside his scammer friends all this while? She’s had become a victim of scam or… Her thoughts were interrupted when David asked,


“Are you okay Al?”


“Of course I am, at least your head is still intact. A very good evidence that I am still very okay.”

There was a long pause and she had to scream at him to continue.


“Calm down Al, I will” Another agonizing silence then he continued.

“We gather at THE NIGHT’s galore, you know that big apartment at the east side of Johnsbuggert City. At first, we were placing hefty sums on animal fights. Each night, we get to pick sturdy animals of choice to fight against opponents for the night, I noticed they were fed substances, I don’t know what it is but it seems like drugs, they said it is meant to energize them. The winning animal takes home the prize, and the other one ends up dead or gets shot dead if injured. I wanted to opt out because the sights of this were too horrific for me. But the anchor persuaded me that it takes getting used to and I was going to lose the money I have invested without a dime returned to me if I opted out that early, so I stayed and kept losing each game. I won on my fifth trip to the club but several games later, here I am about to be destitute.


He paused, searching her face, she noticed the genuine look of concern on his face and she just shook her head and glared at him.
She had wasted years loving a foolish man.
He sighed and continued, “It got worse Al, after my first month there they started bringing in human beings and we started betting on humans, able-bodied men. I wondered why they were taking such a risk, my guess was they were sweet-talked and promised heaven and earth and a truckload of profit like they did to me. The GOATS, we call them GOATS, they also ingest the powdery substance before they wrestle. It was no ordinary wrestling, they wrestled one another until death. The rule of the game was ‘You kill or you die’ It was as if everything was programmed. They let you get comfortable and they show you their true colors… the bets on the animals were like an initiation into their group and there is no turning back…it’s like…like crossing the Rubicon bridge. I tried hard to escape, to opt out but I was completely damned.”


He coughed, took a glance at my face, and continued.
“All I could do was keep playing, watch the gruesome game take place, loose and lend more and more money from other members and keep watching all over again as they wrestle relentlessly with one another, clawing blindly and breaking bones with each blow, none of the two fighters must rest, any slight attempt to rest from your GOAT is inviting death from the opponent and you, the GAME LORD losing money and the profits, it became a routine. Believe me, I tried but I was threatened, they threatened to falsely accuse me of all sorts of crimes so, I had to give in.”


The ringing of Alfreda’s phone had jolted the both of them. She looked across the bed at her phone and saw that it was the alarm she had set for 4 pm. The time had passed so quickly and David was still telling her what seemed like rubbish and seemed like the truth at the same time.

“You gave in to empty threats? Just like that?” Alfreda asked, she was about to reach the limit of her patience at that moment.


“I wish they were empty ones!” He cried.

STAY TUNED FOR EPISODE 4

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THE GINGER FOR A NEW WEEK

Monday, despite being the start of a new week, is a dreaded day for so many people.
“It’s about to be Monday again” “Tomorrow is Monday” “How I wish this weekend does not end” and so on is usually the lamentation of all and sundry prior to Monday, especially students, 9-5 workers, apprentices, and even the self-employed.

But why do people hate Mondays? Usually, Monday marks the beginning of a stressful week for some, and of rigorous school activities for students. A day that ends the comfort associated with a weekend, it is a day that kick-starts another five to six days routine race of humans chasing survival, that is, striving to make a means to an end which also at the same time makes it an important day. A day needed to kick-start the other days to continually set in place and stabilize our means of survival.

How to get Motivated for Monday

We all simply feel less motivated on Mondays and we tend to need an assurance or a sort of motivation that preaches “tomorrow will be better than yesterday” or “this Monday will be better than the past Mondays.” The truth is that we can be our own source of motivation. We can set the wheel of a better week running ourselves. How about we stop dreading Mondays? What if we start approaching Mondays with zeal and optimism?
Here is how you can make the best of the beginning of a new week:

1. Prepare your mind for a successful day/week:

View Monday as a day to gear yourself towards positivity, take time to relax your tense mind either by affirmations or meditations, reminisce back to the past weeks, reflect on your past tasks, check for mistakes, and seek for improvements to avoid recurring mistakes and be hopefully for the best throughout the rest of the week.


2. Have a positive mindset:

Cultivating a positive attitude in every ramification of life begets fortitude, assurance of the best, and enthusiasm towards one’s objectives. Every individual needs to approach Monday, the beginning of the week, the rest of the week, and the milestones ahead with a positive mindset. One should view difficult tasks as an opportunity to learn more and grow.

3. Set Clear Goals For the Week:

Setting clear goals itself is motivation enough to set a tone for a successful week ahead. This enables you to focus and narrow down the possibilities of overwhelming tasks to clear and purposeful ones. When you’re at it, be stern while setting your goals for the week, and outline the things you aim to actualize, they might be workplace-related jobs or geared towards personal development.


4. Have a curated list of your plans:

Draft a plan or to-do list to guide you throughout the day or week, and arrange the order of your tasks according to how they suit you or according to your work pace. Do not be in a rush to carry out if not required of you. An organized plan motivates and contributes to a successful week.

5. Seek more knowledge about your goals:

Associate yourself with individuals equipped with more knowledge on the goals you wish to tackle, and source for inspiration on your objectives by reading reassuring or motivational quotes, books, or online content like this one you’re currently reading. Indulge in activities that arouse your creativity and quest for learning.


6. Be Consistent:

Your motivation towards a new week can be further backed up by being consistent in whatever you set your mind on whether workplace-related or a self-objective, show up every day, and get it done at the time you have assigned to get it done. In other words, consistency serves as an instrument to spur a productive and positive week.


7. Be mindful of your well-being:

Good health is mostly underrated and unappreciated meanwhile good health is easily a source of motivation. Your body loses the ability to engage in important activities when experiencing weakness both physically and in the mind. Eating healthy, taking time to relax, and prioritizing self-care activities like exercises revitalize your mind and body.


Also, remember to always share your achievements with your loved ones, and celebrate your achievements regardless of how little. This would further make Monday less dreadful for you and motivate you for the coming weeks. So, as each beginning of the week draws closer, do not hesitate to seek and cling to any source of motivation, embrace positivity, look forward to daily growth, and of course, make more money.

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Being The Father Of Twins Is The Best Feeling Ever, They Don’t Cry – Davido Opens Up

David Adeleke, the world-famous Afrobeats singer, who is popularly known as Davido has relished being a father of twins.

The DMW boss described it as the “best feeling ever.”

Speaking in a recent interview with Billboard, Davido said people said it would be difficult for him and his wife to raise the twins, but it has turned out the opposite.

He said the twins don’t cry, and they are growing so fast.

“I remember when they came, everybody was calling like, ‘They have twins, blah, blah, blah. It’s gonna be hard.’ But, my twins are blessed. They don’t even cry.

“They’re just calm and they’re just growing so fast. It’s just a blessing. Thank God for everything really,” he said.

The also talked about his forthcoming album.

He assured that the album would arrive this year.

Davido went on to hint on another collaboration with Chris Brown which he said would appear on the American star’s album scheduled to drop in two weeks time.

He said he and Brown has over 20 unreleased songs together, hinting at the possibility of a joint project.

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VACATION DESTINATIONS: COUNTRIES NIGERIA CAN EXPLORE WITHOUT A VISA

“All work and no play makes Jack a dull boy” is what they say and here you’re working tirelessly without taking a break even when you have all the time in the world to relax, you still chose to work, ‘ahh’! Are you running a race with a clock?

Yes, it’s common knowledge that humans need to work mainly to earn a living and alongside, achieve some goals we’ve outlined for ourselves but at some point in time, there is a need to take a break, relax, and possibly make unforgettable memories while at it.

Making plans for a vacation to indulge in sightseeing tours in other countries is one of those ways to relieve work stress. As in ‘no kee’ yourself with work, try ‘dey’ enjoy small small!

There is an existing phenomenon that says exploring, that is, traveling to other countries is an essential part of life as it helps garner knowledge, learn about the cultures of other nations, and most importantly, have unforgettable experiences.

From having a bucket list of countries suitable for vacation, and as per the motto of Gen Z ‘delulu is the solulu’ i.e delusion is the solution, we progress to fantasize on several occasions about how every moment during the vacation is going to materialize, especially the things of interest you’d indulge in so much that your imagination is getting the better part of you. From booking an amazing hotel room with breathtaking views of the seas or landscape to trying different dishes, exploring beautiful places, taking aesthetic pictures for the gram, and generally speaking, having the best time of your life.

Now, you already have a ‘boujee’ budget enough for you to go on vacation and to explore during the vacation but you have a problem that is very much like a big issue that can mar your vacation plans and that problem is a Visa!

It’s common knowledge that a visa is compulsory to endorse international movements.

Almost all the countries in the world require a visa before entry, this policy is particularly peculiar to Nigerians and we all know how stressful it usually is to obtain one. Everybody wants to live a soft life, we can’t come and die on top visa.

If you’re a Nigerian reading this content, I have good news for you! With a Nigerian passport, you can travel to a few countries visa-free!

Countries Nigerians can visit visa-free

The Nigerian passport ranks 191st in the world as of March 2024 according to VisaGuide Passport Index.

The updated list of countries Nigerians can travel to visa-free with only a Nigerian passport as of 2024 shows a total of 28 countries and these countries are;

1. Barbados

2. Benin

3. Burkina Faso

4. Cameroon

5. Cabo Verde

6. Chad

7. Cook Islands

8. Ivory Coast

9. Dominica

10. Fiji

11. Ghana

12. Guinea

13. Guinea-Bissau

14. Haiti

15. Liberia

16. Mali

17. Micronesia

18. Montserrat

19. Niger

20. Niue

21. Senegal

22. Sierra Leone

23. Saint Kitts and Nevis

24. Gambia

25. Togo

26. Vanuatu

27. Antigua and Barbuda

28. Kenya

The period of stay for some of these countries can be as long as 30 days and some others longer than that, usually 90 to 120 days. It is important to take note of this so as not to forget yourself while enjoying your stay to avoid the risk of being penalized for overstaying or banned from future visits. Don’t turn yourself into ‘contraband’ by overstaying.

The question now is which of these countries promises a very interesting and memorable experience? Which particular country or countries can I and ‘my boo or bae’ go to enjoy a premium ‘soft life’?

In our next content we will give an overview of the top most appealing countries you can visit to ‘chop the life of your head’ visa-free and all you need is only a Nigerian passport.

Everyone is meant to enjoy life, and we must! The goal is to work hard, make money, and live life to the fullest.

I hope this pushes the idle ‘God when’ and ‘God abeg’ category of people to sit up and work hard. Everyone deserves to enjoy life but it requires a lot of effort.

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WHO MADE DAVID MAD?

PART 1

Alfreda suddenly turned face up, she had been lying down on her seat in the same position for some hours. The movement startled the old man sitting beside her, as she heard him gasp in shock, she looked over at him, he had that ‘What did you do that for’ expression on his face. She had to say something to appease the man or else he would unseat her and throw her out of the plane with his intense stare. “I’m sorry, I was feeling uncomfortable sleeping on my side,” she said.

Sleep has eluded her for days now.
She’s been on this plane for 8 hours and she still hasn’t slept even for a minute. It was no better on the ground and in the sky, she had thought it could only get better while in the plane. She was wrong.

The images that pop up when she tries as much as to close her eyes to get a little rest are gory.

“David is not here on the plane with you, you have to take a few minutes of sleep. Try hard. Get him the fuck out of your mind and rest a little. You know you deserve better than a man like him,” that voice that has always been in her head said to her. The voice goes on and off, it comes to either console her, motivate her, or like now, scold her

“You know what? Just keep shut! If you do not get what my fear is about. You are just a passing voice, you can’t even help me, just disappear this very minute,” she murmured to herself.

It is easier said than done. It’s not as easy as the voice makes it seem. David has somehow imprinted fear of him in her.

The thought of David and what he said he would do to her engulfs her like cold as every minute passes by.
He is capable of doing the most unthinkable things, I know who and what he is.

Alfreda has had no peace like he had said since she packed her belongings out of his apartment three days ago and finally, out of town yesterday far away from him and his vileness. But why? She was the victim here for God’s sake! The victim of his psychotic behaviors! She turned in her seat for the umpteenth time and sighed heavily.

She had loved this man with all her heart, Where did everything go wrong? At the peak of their relationship, everything just came crashing down. One thing she knew was that she was not the one at fault because she made sure to make their relationship work as much as she could.

It was David who was the orchestrator of the downfall that befell their relationship.

At first, David had sunk their finances into the mud. They both had agreed to keep a joint account and save 20% of their earnings in it, be it from their monthly salary, from proceedings of their side gigs, or any other means. They were live-in couples and things were going well as planned they had planned to move from their studio apartment into a bigger and more spacious apartment by the end of the year.

Then, all of a sudden the money in the joint account started reducing day after day. Anytime, she asks David about it, he assures her and tells her it’s for a project introduced to him by his colleagues at the office and they needed as much money as possible to kickstart and keep it running.
At the point when it became obvious that he was going to empty all they had strived to save for the past 3 years, she became worried and had to call him to talk.

One day, she had reached out for her phone to call him. Picking up the phone to call him was a usual routine and she was used to it already and he was, too or so she thought. As soon as he answered her call, the next thing she heard was him yelling at her and saying what she could not process at that moment, and up till now, she still did not understand what caused that outburst from him.

“Hello honey,” she said as soon as she heard his voice over the phone.

No reply.

“How’s work moving?” She asked and got no reply from him again.

He sure could hear her well, she could hear him breathing heavily.

“What’s wrong Dav? Are you okay? Why are you not responding? You don’t sound okay? Is work tedious today? Should I come to drive you around town so you can cool off a bit?” A wave of restlessness came upon her when she still did not get a response from the other end of the phone. She was about to look for footwear to put on and drive down to his office when she suddenly heard him speak.

“Look Al, I need you to know the appropriate time to call and not to call, your call just made me lose a fucking deal! You need to learn from other girls who do not use calls to disturb their man during the day and do better.”

Alfreda stiffened at the snap in David’s voice remembering that David was all charms when dealing with her, something must be wrong at work then. He had abruptly cut off the call. She would wait patiently for him at home and get to know what went wrong.

He came home very late that night, but she did not question him, he showered, ate a little, went up to the room, and slept immediately. Thankfully, the next day was a weekend, David does not go to the office on weekends so she decided to bring up the matter the next day.

Alfreda stood up very early the next day, to sort out house chores so she and David could have time to talk without any distractions. She went back into the bedroom and saw David already awake. David is no doubt a handsome man. He was a tall, dark, athletically built man in his late twenties and very aware of his good looks and physique. That drowsy half-awake expression on his face every morning never ceases to make her heart flutter. As Alfreda closed the door behind her, she moved further into the room and made her way to the bed, she bent down to kiss David on the cheek and immediately felt a tingle spread through to her spine. David pulled her closer and attempted to deepen the kiss but she escaped his embrace and proceeded to open the window blinds. She knows if she obliges him, they will forget the issue at hand, totally.

It was glaring that he had been avoiding talking about what was going on with him.

She was busy dusting the window with her back still turned towards him as she said,

“David, you know we have to talk right? About what you’ve been up to this past few months. I deserve to be informed about it and no! We won’t talk about this later but right now.”

She could feel David’s eyes boring intensely into her back. And right there and then, she knew.



TO BE CONTINUED…

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A VIEW INTO VALENTINE’S DAY

“Some people have never received valentine packages” and similar posts like this are probably the first thing you’d come across as you log in to any social media platform on the 14th of February every year.

Some playfully refer to this day as a perfect one to apply pressure and ‘press the necks’ of single people. But, has there ever been a day when single people are not subjected to pressure from couples? Those people have always restricted our airflow! God abeg!

To those of us single, it’s just another day to be reminded of our inexistent love life and to be pressured further when those in relationships upload lovely, and cute pictures and video evidence of them exchanging Valentine’s packages or gifts, flowers, and so on.

The work automatically assigned to the singles on this day is to display the ‘raise am, raise am’ act. Some do this by liking the couples’ posts, exclaiming, and leaving comments like ‘he-he’ ‘ awwn’ ‘God abeg’ and ‘God when’ while some will rather hiss, squeeze their faces, and scrunch their nose as they scroll past the posts with a speed of light.

People’s opinions about Valentine’s Day vary.

Some view this day as ‘overhyped’, some deem it important and look forward to it, every year while some think it is just like every other day. What then is the big deal about Valentine’s Day?

For the lucky few, it’s a day of happiness and to further bond with one another, for others it’s a day that opens up old wounds.

Now, here comes the question, Is Valentine’s Day really what it should be nowadays?

What’s Valentine’s Day all about?

Valentine’s Day is all about love.

St. Valentine, patron of love.

Valentine’s Day was presented in honor and remembrance of St. Valentine, a Roman priest. It is said that this man displayed love in its greatest form for the church through dedication and laying down His life. Since then, Valentine’s Day has been celebrated as a day of “love”. A day celebrated between loved ones with a theme colour of white and red that symbolizes this special day.

Over time, Valentine’s Day evolved from the celebration of St. Valentine’s sacrificial love to a day for individuals, friends, and families to rekindle and keep the fire of their undying love for each other burning bright, to ensure their bond wax stronger, and to appreciate one another through admirable gestures, such as exchange of beautiful words, and substantial gifts that further preach love to their loved ones.

But, spoiler alert!!!

Valentine’s Day has lost its actual substance and uniqueness. Nowadays, the exchange of material things is used to measure the extent of love between couples. High expectations as well as competition for who got the most expensive gifts are now the order of the day during Valentine’s Day. Also, Comparisons of what others did for their partners to what their partners did for them now matter over the real love that should be celebrated. Most people believe that the only genuine manner their partners can sincerely establish their love for them is through expensive gifts which should not be so.

Valentine’s Day has been reduced to one single day that is all about overhyped excitement of partners who forget being good or showing love to one another for the rest of the year. The majority have misplaced perceptions about Valentine’s Day and they celebrate it just to follow the bandwagon.

Series of events on Valentine’s Day

We witness diverse happenings on Valentine’s Day, some lovely and prayer point worthy while some are filled with sad experiences. The lucky few get appreciated, and some get served premium breakfast as ‘e dey hot’.

We see instances of a cheating partner getting exposed as Valentine gifts and the bearers of the gifts collide with one another in the house of a girlfriend or vice versa. Both men and women are dumbfounded as they witness or see videos of their supposed partners presenting gifts to another person.

For people like this, Valentine’s Day will forever be a sour day until someone somewhere, the right man or woman appears to change their view about it.

Then, there are the ones who experience kindness from real partners who immensely understand and incorporate intentionality on a normal day aside the Valentine’s Day. To them, Valentine’s Day is just a plus one day to wax stronger and a reminder that their love can’t be shaken.

I know at this point, you’re wondering how to reset the true purpose of Valentine’s Day.

Here are some updates;

• As a person with an active relationship, avoid exerting pressure on your partners to get you expensive gifts as regards Valentine’s Day, as this is somehow unkind and stressful. Do away with high expectations and let your main focus be on growing to be better in your relationship.

• If your partner is not buoyant enough to get you any gift whatsoever, spend quality time with them, and bond over meaningful things on this day, it might be a movie night together in your room, or a game night. Indulge in any other interest you have observed that sparks joy in your partner.

• If you have once been hurt on Valentine’s Day, it’s understandable if your view about it changed completely after that experience but trust me, you’re deserving of love in its purest form. Be open-minded and give love another try.

...life let me embrace my ‘single to stupor’ life

• To those of us single, let us keep exclaiming ‘God when’ to couples pictures!

• I’d advise us to not be a troll or leave hateful comments under couples’ posts or take memes or posts pointing at our dilemma to heart. Have it in mind that one of these days “God go run am” And if all those get to you, you better go find a partner! Or humor yourself and order a Valentine’s package for yourself, take pictures, and caption it “Valentine gifts from my man/woman” so you too won’t ‘carry last’

In all, we should be willing to rewire our ethos on the perception of Valentine’s Day. It’s all about love and love is all about being sacrifial, pure, selfless, and not materialistic as material things are just a plus. Therefore, all-round love should be the order of the day.

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A VIEW INTO VALENTINE’S DAY


“Some people have never received valentine packages” and similar posts are probably the first thing you’d come across as you log in to any social media platform on the 14th of February every year. Some playfully refer to it as a day to apply pressure and ‘press the necks’ of single people. But, has there ever been a day single people have not been subjected to pressure from couples? Those people have always been restricting our air flows! God abeg!

To those of us single, it’s just another day to be reminded of our inexistent love life and to be further pressured while those in relationships seem to pressure us with uploads of pictures and video evidence of them exchanging Valentine’s packages or gifts, flowers, and so on. The work automatically assigned to the singles on this day is to display the ‘raise am, raise am’ act. Some do this by liking the couples’ posts, exclaiming, and leaving comments like ‘he-he’ ‘ awwn’ ‘God abeg’ and ‘God when’ while some will rather hiss, squeeze their faces, and scrunch their nose as they scroll past the posts with a speed of light.


People’s opinions about Valentine’s Day vary. Some view this day as ‘overhyped’, some deem it important and look forward to it every year while some think it is just like every other day. What then is the big deal about Valentine`s Day? For the lucky few, it’s a day of happiness and to further bond with one another, for others it’s a day that opens up old wounds.


Now, here comes the question, Is Valentine’s Day really what it should be nowadays?

What’s Valentine’s Day about?

Valentine’s Day is all about love.

St. Valentine. Patron of love.


Valentine’s Day was presented in honor and remembrance of St. Valentine, a Roman priest. It is said that this man displayed love in its greatest form for the church through dedication and laying down His life. Since then, Valentine`s has been celebrated as a day of “love”. A day celebrated between loved ones with a theme colour of white and red that symbolizes this special day.


Gradually, Valentine’s Day evolved from the celebration of St. Valentine’s sacrificial love to a day for individuals, friends, and families to rekindle and keep the fire of their undying love burning bright, to ensure their bond wax stronger, and to appreciate one another through admirable gestures, such as exchange of beautiful words, and substantial gifts that further preach love to their loved ones. But, spoiler alert!!!


Valentine’s Day has lost its actual substance and uniqueness. The exchange of material things is used to measure the extent of love between couples nowadays. High expectations competition for who got the most expensive gifts is now the order of the day during Valentine’s Day. Comparison of what others did to what their partners did for them now matters over the actual real love that should be celebrated because many are now wired to believe the only genuine way their partners can sincerely establish their love for them is through expensive gifts which should not be so.


Valentine’s Day has been reduced to one single day that is all about overhyped excitement of partners who forget being good or showing love to one another for the rest of the year. The majority have misplaced perceptions about Valentine’s Day and celebrate it just to follow the bandwagon.
Series of events on Valentine’s Day.

We witness diverse happenings on Valentine’s Day, some lovely and prayer point worthy while some are filled with sad experiences. The lucky few get appreciated, and some get served premium breakfast as ‘e dey hot’.


We see instances of a cheating partner getting exposed as Valentine packages and their bearers collide with one another in the house of a girlfriend or vice versa. Both men and women are dumbfounded as they witness or see videos of their supposed partners presenting gifts to another person.
For people like this, Valentine’s Day will forever be a sour day until someone somewhere, the right man or woman appears to change their view about it.


Then, there are the ones who experience kindness from real partners who immensely understand and incorporate intentionality on a normal day aside the Valentine’s Day. To them, Valentine’s Day is just a plus one day to wax stronger and a reminder that their love can’t be shaken.
I know at this point, you’re wondering how to reset the true purpose of Valentine’s Day.


Here are some updates;


• As a person with an active relationship, avoid exerting pressure on your partners to get you expensive gifts as regards Valentine’s Day, as this is somehow unkind and stressful. Do away with High expectations and let your main focus be on growing to be better in your relationship. If your partner is not buoyant enough to get you any gift whatsoever, spend quality time with them, bond over meaningful things on this day might be a movie night in your room, or a game night. Indulge in any other interest you have observed, which sparks joy in your partner.

• If you have once been hurt on Valentine’s Day, it’s understandable if your view about it changed completely after that experience but trust me, you’re deserving of love in its purest form. Be open-minded and give love another try.

…like let me embrace my ‘single to stupor’ life.


• To those of us single, let us keep exclaiming ‘God when’ to couples pictures! I’d advise us to not be a troll under couple’s posts or take memes or posts pointing at our dilemma to heart. Have it in mind that one of these days “God go run am” And if all those get to you, you better go find a partner! Or humor yourself and order a Valentine’s package for yourself, take pictures, and caption it “Valentine gifts from my man/woman” so you too won’t ‘carry last’


In all, we should be willing to rewire our ethos on the perception of Valentine’s Day. It’s all about love and love is all about being sacrifial, pure, selfless, and not materialistic as material things are just a plus. Therefore, all-round love should be the order of the day.