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Celebrity dancer Kaffy has emphasized the importance of protecting children and establishing clear boundaries, particularly when it comes to trusted adults in the home.

In a video posted on Instagram, she said a lot of families still don’t realize that harmful situations involving children often come from familiar and trusted individuals — not strangers.

According to Kaffy: “Parents need to be cautious of the favorite uncles, the favorite aunties, the favorite nannies, the favorite drivers. There needs to be boundaries. Many children face uncomfortable situations from people who are close to them.”

Kaffy explained that in many African homes, people are encouraged to be overly familiar with children, without considering how it may affect the child’s sense of personal space.

She shared that when she was younger, someone close to her family crossed personal boundaries with her, and although she didn’t fully understand it at the time, she knew it didn’t feel right.

She said: “It happened right in front of people who trusted the person. At that age, I didn’t understand what was going on. But I knew something about it was wrong.”

Kaffy pointed out that people who harm children don’t always appear suspicious:“Many of them appear caring. They may be the ones who always want to help or be around the child. That’s why parents need to pay attention and set clear boundaries.”

She also spoke against adults making unnecessary comments about children’s bodies or giving physical affection without consent.

“Some compliments are unnecessary. Some physical touch is unnecessary. Even if the person is a family member. A child is a child. Respect their space.”

Kaffy urged parents and guardians to teach children that they are allowed to say ‘no’ when they feel uncomfortable — regardless of who the adult is.

She concluded by saying she would continue the conversation in her upcoming session, encouraging parents to learn how to recognize early signs and create safe emotional environments for their children.

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Prominent Nigerian dancer, Kaffy laments the challenges she faces in her personal life following her divorce.

She criticized the societal stigma attached to divorced women, questioning why people assume a woman with children is less desirable, even though statistics show that many marriages end in separation.

Kaffy further argued that divorced individuals who have worked on themselves may, in fact, be better partners than unmarried people.

She highlighted that over 70% of marriages eventually fail, stressing that real love should bring peace and security rather than anxiety.

Her words …

“I’ve had somebody tell me because I’m a single mother, I can’t even think about dating me because I have two children.

99% of the people that criticize me about my marriage are either not married today or have left their marriages. What makes you think that a woman that has been divorced is not even the better candidate If she has worked on herself, what is the guarantee that the two single people today are not both going to be divorced people tomorrow?

Because why are people feeling like, I need to marry him fresh and I need to marry her fresh. But both of you are going into the same data that the world has computed for you. There are over 70% of marriages crashed. You are part of the 70%. There’s just so many stuff. Do you know that a lot of butterfly in the tummy is a trauma response? Real love brings peace, not butterflies. Real love is not supposed to make you anxious. You shouldn’t be with… I can imagine Daddy Freeze now, as he’s here now, and he’s thinking about what taste buds is doing in the house. He’s at peace. I’m still healing from those anxious feelings because of the moment I feel like I killed this I’m like, why would you do this to me? I’m 45, but I’ve spent the last 10 years of my adult life trying to fix it. My children were looking at us and I’m like, go. If you have to leave. Oh, really? Oh, yeah. You think I’m irresponsible?

I know how responsible I am as a woman. I don’t sleep around. I don’t do casual stuff. I heard even the, after I used him, his youth, after I used him to collect children, my IVF champion, because I don’t understand…”

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Kafayat Shafau, the famous Nigerian dancer and choreographer, who is also known as Kaffy, has said that she lost friends by virtue of being a dancer.

Speaking in an interview with Saturday Beats, she said, “Taking on a career without any gender focus is already tough. As a dancer, the only place we were appreciated was when we were displaying for the National Troupe, or when were called by a governor for a national assignment.

“Dancing was not a mainstream career, neither was it commercially viable. Breaking into that door that did not exist was the main sacrifice for me, as well as the pain of losing family friends and people around me. I was practically isolated.

“There even some people who initially supported me, but withdraw their support because they did not see what I was seeing.”

She also stated that women in the entertainment were often viewed as sexual objects.

She said, “As a woman, one is often asked what value one brings to the table to be considered with one’s male peers. I struggled a lot with that, because while expressing myself, I had to deal with music directors, editors and different stakeholders who felt one’s opinion was not necessary.

“But, one of the things that helped me was the fact that I am highly educated and intellectual enough to express my ideas and implement them in ways that earned me respect. I was also hands on with whatever I said.”

The award-wining dancer also noted that in the course of her career, she got more support from men than women.

She said, “I have got more admiration and support from men, than women. It came after a bit of resistance, which is normal, because there will always be some of resistance when one newly gets into a field.”

Kafayat Shafau, the popular Nigerian dancer, fitness coach and founder of the Imagneto Dance Company, who is also known as Kaffy, has talked about the dance industry.

She says that though dance is now better recognized as an integral part of the creative industry in Nigeria, investments towards its growth is still low.

In an interview with Saturday Beats, she said, “The good thing that has happened to dance is that it is now recognized both as a viable business and career. Unlike 10 to 15 years ago when I started, no parent would want to bring their child to dance classes. They did not understand what value it brought to their children, but now they do.

“However, I think one of the main problems it does not look like a very structured ecosystem is because of the way investment is going. Money is invested in movies and music, but not in dance. Dance is still seen as a service provider, rather than a part of the industry. The only question is, are people taking it seriously enough to consider it an ‘investable’ entity? Without investment and capital, dance cannot be sustained.”

The dancer also stressed that dance could be used for more than entertainment.

She said, “Dance is what holds the entertainment industry together. No one would want to go to a concert and watch an artiste stand on a spot; it would be boring. In the health sector, dance carries a lot of power too. I use dance as a therapy to treat people with trauma, and even autism. I use it to improve the retentive memory of children.”

Kaffy, who stated that she had invested a lot of her personal money into building a structure and technology to help both dancers and non-dancers, also noted that many talented dancers lacked a business mindset.

She said, “The problem is not the talent, but the mindset that it can be used to make money. However, that is not peculiar to dancers. We need to furnish the creative industry with adequate knowledge. They don’t need to go to university to understand accounting, marketing, sales, use of social media usage, and other things that can help their careers/businesses. That is what my platform is about to do for young people.”